N: Hi Jamie, I was in a long-distance relationship N: For nearly 3 years N: He came back during his school break but became N: Really weird N: Okay? J: Hmm N: At first, I thought it was just because he was N: Graduating soon and maybe he was stressed N: Then he started saying “We should break up” J+N: Oh N: Kept telling me that J: OHHH N: I can not visit him J: HOLD UP HOLD- N: Oh wait wait wait N: And stood me up at the last minute N: We broke up because I figured out that N: He was cheating on me with his friend’s- Oh damn, ex N: Friend’s ex? Wait. Friend’s ex?? N: This mothafucker’s- J: So I’m dating y-, no N: No no its like J: Okay J: No we’re not, okay, sorry N: Shut up N: Okay, I’ll say that again N: We broke up because I figured out that he was N: Cheating on me with his friend’s ex for 3 months+ already N: When I found out, I didn’t confront him and just texted him N: That we are over N: For me, I wanted to end this thing quietly and maturely N: But then his friends started to tell me that he’s N: Telling people that I was the one that wouldn’t let go N: Of this relationship and it’s my fault N: This motherfucker is like crazy like N: He keeps spreading all this false info and keep telling N: People that he didn’t cheat, even still I’ve been silent N: About it. But the story doesn’t end here, oh my gosh N: He now keeps asking me to payback for all the N: Things he gifted to me. At first, I thought just pay him N: And end all this shit but he asked for more money still N: So I decided to never give him money anymore N: My problem is that after all this drama N: I’m so scared of dating now N: My friends say to give it a try and date someone else N: But I’m really scared N: What suggestions would you give me on getting over these struggles? J: Girl. Congratulations for ending the stupidest guy ever J: Clap. J+N: *CLAPS* J: It’s really hard to end these kind of situations if you J: Are still in love, which you call J: It’s a very toxic relationship to be N: Hmm J: He’s the one whos doing all these bad things but why J: Do you have to feel bad, it’s really.. J: It’s just not right J: But… for him, um J: I’m really sorry that he kinda lost you, I mean J: You don’t really have to be sorry for him cause J: Dating his friend’s ex, is like at the first place he J: Doesn’t have any respect to one of his friends or any J: People around him. So soon, he’s gonna lose all that J: And his dick too, um J: Don’t be silent about it, why would you be silent about it J: Um, if it was me and if my boyfriend J: *Whispers* If I had a boyfriend J: If my boyfriend does that to me J: I would play baseball with his dick, alright? So N: Home run J: First J: I would break up, that’s the first thing that I’m gonna do J: I mean like of course and then J: Ask for money? Dude like, really? N: That was like a- that shocked me J: “Payback for all the things he gifted to-” J: So, how- wait. 3 years right? J: *Gasp* J: Even though it’s such a waste, J: I’m actually glad the relationship didn’t last beyond 3 years. N: Ahhh, the time, the timing That she didn’t spend more time in this stupid relationship J: Yes N: Hmm J: I’m just happy for you J: That you don’t have to keep on going with this guy J: And um, cheating… is a habit N: Hmmm J: So, if one starts to cheat in a one relationship J: Next is not that hard, right? N: Hmm N: Hmm yeah, got to admit, I cheated J: *HITS NATHAN* N: I cheated like once or twice N: I’ve done it, I’ve been there J: It’s not N: Don’t meet someone, don’t meet someone who cheats J: But if you’re like him and he knows what he has done that’s bad J: It’s okay, but most of the guys won’t think that deeply J: He’s kinda like, more like a um, sensitive side J: Because he thinks a lot, he thinks a lot in the girl’s J: Perspective, so he knows what he’s been done wrong J: But, for him, I don’t know because he’s really J: Messed up and J: He started talking about bad things about you J: Which is really what a pussy would do, I’m not talking J: About girls, it’s just so J: I’ll talk in Korean because you are Korean. J: I don’t think breakups are ever easy or end well. J: But, you can still tell what kind of person your ex is through their behavior after the break up. J: In my case, I tend to keep only good memories, J: because the good memories are what stand out to me. J: Therefore, I’m on good enough terms to say at least “hi” whenever we run into each other down the road. J: But if you find out your ex has been talking shit behind you? J: You gotta kick the person out of your life forever. Indeed, there are some people who have this ’Nice Person Syndrome’. J: Since they are the ones who end the relationship or feel guilty, J: Out of guilt, they might think “I want to be remembered well by this person”, J: or “I did something wrong to make them cheat on me”. J: But you shouldn’t ever think like that. J: Seriously. J: You might feel terrible and think “oh, the past 3 years were a waste of my time”, J: but what I want to say is “Girl, congrats for not letting it go further than 3 years.” J: and you also might be worried like, ‘Can I meet a new, better person?’ J: or ‘I’m afraid of starting another relationship.’ J: There are TONS of better people. J: TONS. J: You will meet a way better person than your ex. Because, J: You deserve it. J: So, don’t be so frustrated. J: Be confident! J: Fighting! *MUSIC* What Would Jamie Do?